-Neglecting time for each other or ignoring each other when someone is speaking.

-Lacking Trust with broken promises, cheating, misunderstandings.

-Ineffective Communication when one isn't heard and can't express needs or wants. There may be lies or indirect, evasive answers to questions.

-Pressure to meet partner's standards or sexual needs.

-Fear to feel unable to escape, disgree or confront temper.

-Control over all the decisions without partner's input. Control with money, or being overly possessive. Jealousy with typical behavior (jealousy is not a bad feeling, only unhealthy in excessiveness).

-Abuse with partner by physically harming or threatning, including children.

-Abuse with partner with verbality with ridicule, condescending words, namecalling. Even the partner recieving the abuse may minimize the severity of the problem.

-Abuse with partner by keeping sexual encounters secret, forcing sex, refuse safe sex, or hiding an STD.

-Attention with quality affection, support, and intimacy.

-Trust and care for each other.

-Friendship and time together.

-Respect for each other even when upset. Every healthy relationship has conflict, the respect keeps it healthy.

-Problem Solving is effective with serious disagreements we all have.

-Effective Communication to hear one another and understand each other with reflective listening and empathy.

-Lack of Abuse even with disagreements. All healthy relationships have disagreements, but violence creates an unhealthy relationship.

-Loyalty with your partner sexually, intimately, and emotionally.

-Commitment is long-term with intentions of going through the good and bad, moreoever, willing to make sacrifices to benefit the relationship.

-Intimacy needs to be constant with sex life and emotional needs for a healthy relationship.

"How Healthy Is Your Relationship?" (CHMC) California Healthy Marriages Coaltion www.camarriage.com