As I mirror your feelings
through your eyes I enter your world to understand
you at this moment Then we both see things clearly
in your inner life As we deepen further for
initmacy to forment
I have left me and become You I now feel what you feel I can see your cause and not
your blame I am capable to mend past
concerns as you heal
And in turn feel your bliss and
your wish A priviledge so honorable and
remarkably profound A wakening for my soul not to
miss A place where we are safe and
sound
Why couples should practice this
in their communication? By determining the root of the
problem, most issues are solved. When conflict arises between a couple,
there is an opportunity to be fully listened to and understood. The most
effective way we have witnessed such experience is with the practice of
the Art of Empathy.
Why is this important?
When our partner knows our most vulnerable feelings we have connected
intimately. Keep in mind, intimacy does not only involve making love.
How can a partner show empathy
when they are upset? We always recommend that the one that is
most upset shares their feelings first and then switch places. Using an
object for the one expressing feelings (and not empathizing at the
time) will help keep track of who is talking.
How will a relationship benefit
from empathy? Ask yourself how would you feel if when you and
your partner were upset or happy about a situation and your partner
completely understood all your feelings and why you would see it that
way without bringing in their own thoughts to the conversation.
Each person gets a turn to share their feelings without interruption
and feel completely understood. So why is this good for the
relationship?
10 Reasons Why the Art of Empathy is Enriching
for Couples:
1.You and your partner will build trust for each other. 2.When there is trust, you and your partner will be able to share your
most vulnerable feelings with safety. 3.It releases feelings off your shoulders and allows healing when in
need. 4.Reduces stress and anger.. 5.Improves compassion within your relationship. 6.It is easy to practice and enjoy. Not a mundane activity that feels
like work. It is so rewarding that it becomes addicting. 7.You and your partner will learn more about each other and about
yourselves. 8.Allows you to genuinely understand and appreciate your partner. 9.You develop an open mind by stepping into another person's world
(viewpoint). 10.You can use it with coworkers, friends, children, the lady at the
grocery store and just about anybody.
How do I do this wonderful
tool? It does take commitment and most
importantly...practice. Just like we learn how to drive a car. We are
unfamiliar at first and then with practice it is second nature to us.
